Monday, August 4, 2014












TWU launches new EMBA location in Fort Worth: http://www.twu.edu/twunews/press_releases/14-emba-fort-worth-august.asp

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Five Lies That Could Be Ruining Your Career (and your Life) 


Article via. Linkedin.com
 
We humans are really great at telling ourselves stories. That voice we hear in our head recites some pretty interesting narratives so often and so frequently that we really start believing them after awhile. These stories we keep thinking turn into our beliefs about ourselves, others and the world in general. They actually create our reality. The thing is, they only create our own reality, and there are as many different realities in this world as there are human beings. And that's good, because it means the reality we live in isn't already fixed - our thoughts have the power to change it every minute of our lives.
Day to day, I meet a lot of people's stories. They sound a lot like "I don't like my job, but it pays the bills", "' This 'following your passion' stuff is B.S. But you can't make any money at it", "I don't really have a passion for anything. Maybe if I did, I would do something else, but what's the point?", or "I've got a family that is counting on me, so I have no choice but to stick with this job I hate for now". My guess is that you've heard these stories too. Perhaps one of them is even yours.
Though these stories may seem like very true statements to some people, they are, in fact, lies. Lies people tell themselves that keep them in jobs and careers and relationships that are bad for them. How can you tell they're lies? Because lies keep us in situations that are bad for us. When we're telling our truth, it feels good - it feels right. But it's often easier to have a victim mentality that the cards have been dealt and whatever you've ended up with is all you'll ever have, or that you really have no options left, except terrible ones, and everybody knows it. The stories we tell often start out as protection for our ego; they make us feel better about bad situations by pretending that things are out of our control or someone else's fault and there is just nothing we can do about it. But then they spiral into excuses and beliefs that have the potential to ruin us.
You may be thinking, "I don't lie to myself! Everything about my situation is true!" If you want to know what stories you tell yourself, then take a good look at the state of your relationships, your home, your career, your health, your bank account -- they are perfect indicators of the stories you believe. If your stories are true, then you are content with everything you see. If you're lying to yourself, then what you see isn't good enough for you. You're disappointed in what you have and what you're doing. Wherever you feel disheartened or dissatisfied, take it as a sign that your story is holding you back and could use some changing up. The best way to change our stories? Question them. Speak your story out loud and then ask yourself, "Is it true?" (Spoiler alert: it isn't!) Chances are, you can think of a much truer, much better story to tell in its place.
So let's practice.
The top five lies I hear from the professionals I coach go something like:
1) I haven’t found my passion / I don’t have a passion. Is that true? You cannot think of one thing that you love doing or being? Is there something you do better than most other people you know? If you had a free day all to yourself to do whatever you wanted in the world, could you think of something you might gravitate toward?
Change the story: Instead of "I haven't found my passion", replace with "There are many things I love doing".
2) I can’t afford to leave the job I don’t like. Really? The only way on this earth that you have to earn money is the job you are in right now? Is there nothing you're able to cut out of your current budget that would allow you to be more free? Can your body, your relationships, your long-term career aspirations afford for you to stay in the job you don't like?
Change the story: Instead of "I can't afford to leave the job I don't like", replace with "I can't afford to stay in a job I don't like."
3) It’s too late to change direction now. Is that really true? How many years of life do you think you have left? Now multiply that by 8,765, which is the number of hours in each year. Is that really too little time for you to change direction? Malcolm Gladwell's book, "Outliers", tells us you can be great at what you do with some ability and 10,000 hours of practice. Never put off a goal because it will take too long -- the time will pass anyway. Might as well spend it working toward a goal that makes life fun.
Change the story: Instead of "It's too late...", replace with "If I start today, the journey of 1,000 miles starts with the first step."
4) Pursuing my own happiness is selfish. I have a family to think about. Seriously? There is a reason that the flight attendants tell you in case of a sudden loss of pressure in the cabin to put your oxygen mask on before helping others. How helpful are you to your family and friends when you're gone, depleted, sick, resentful, or angry because you haven't taken care of yourself? (Hint: you aren't) How would your household be different if you were busy pursuing a life that serves you and honors who you are and what you have to give?
Change the story: Instead of "pursuing my dreams is selfish", replace with "showing my children what living a fulfilled life looks like is the best way to enrich theirs."
5) I hate my job now, but I will be happy as soon as I [get the promotion/finish the project/collect my bonus/get my degree]. Are you sure? This one thing is all that is holding you back from happiness and liking your job? How long do you think you'll stop hating your job after you accomplish this magical goal that will make you happy? Happiness experts tell us it's pretty temporary. I like The Dave Matthews Band take on this - "the future is no place to place your better days". Happiness is a choice that you make. It isn't a magical feeling that is bestowed upon us from some outside force.
Change the story: Instead of "I'll be happy when....", replace with "I could be happy now."
We all have our stories. And if you're wondering why your life isn't turning out the way you planned, know that its only a story you tell yourself. It isn't the Truth. Question your narrative about your situation and give yourself permission to believe in something better. It is the quickest and most effective way to change your life.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

How to Answer the Most Common Interview Question?


How many of you have answered the question "tell me a little bit about yourself" with a synopsis of your resume? It wasn't until I had a mock interview with my Acting class professor that I realized how pathetically uninspired my answer might seem. Interestingly, most of the people I have interviewed answer this question in exactly the same manner. Here is how I introduced myself.
"I am Ketaki Desai and I am originally from India. Before coming to the United States several years ago, I completed a Bachelors degree in Mechanical Engineering from Pune University. Because I was interested in biomechanics, I designed an artificial knee and ankle joint for my final year project and then applied for a Masters in Bioengineering at ..."
At this point I was abruptly cut off by my professor. She looked at my resume and then back at me. Then she said something I will always remember.
"You are not your list of degrees and achievements. If that is all I wanted to know, I would have read your resume. I want to know the person that you are, what defines your values, what makes you tick, how I can encourage you to be the best employee you can be. And I want to know all this not just because I need the right fit for my job description, but because I believe you need to feel the same way too. And for that, we need to get to know each other."
She asked me a few personal questions, and based on my answers, gave me a very different version of how I could describe myself. Here is what she came up with:
"I am Ketaki Desai, and I have been fortunate to live a third of my life, each, in a predominately Hindu, Muslim and Christian country. This has played a significant role in how I work with diverse teams, as well as my understanding of global cultures and customs. I love learning, which is evident from all my years of being in school, but I believe that practical application of this knowledge is key. To that effect, I participated in several competitions, including a million dollar global competition, where I could apply the theory I learned in class to real-world problems. I even won this global competition and started my own venture to bridge the gap between education and technology in American classrooms. I am very passionate about reading, and whenever I get a chance, I will pick up a book. I am currently reading The Shiva Trilogy, which is a modern day interpretation of Indian mythology."
Her answer made me seem like an interesting person even to myself! An interviewer's job is to glean as much insight into the core values and beliefs of the candidate, so she can pick someone who is aligned well with the culture of the team and organization. When a person dares to step out of their comfort zone of repeating tried and tested information from their resume, not only does it show innovation and enthusiasm, but it also makes the candidate memorable. An honest, passionate answer reveals more about a person than a canned response, because the body language mimics what is being said. When interviewing by the hundreds and getting similar responses, it is the interesting answers that stick.
Does your introduction really highlight the real you? How would you modify your "tell me about yourself" answer to make it more interesting and memorable? Here is how you can test it: the next time you are at a party introduce yourself differently, and go back to someone you just met after a few hours. Did that person remember at least a part of your conversation?
I would love to hear your feedback. You can email me at ketaki.desai@gmail.com or follow me on Twitter @ktucky
Image credit: Ludovic Bertron / Flickr

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Friday, April 4, 2014

Consumer Credit Counseling Service of Greater Dallas celebrates Financial Literacy Month all-month-long. They are hosting 50 LIVE AND FREE WEBINARS: You can see a full list of events get more details at www.ffdfw.org/calendar. Register for a CCCS Webinar at www.cccs.net/webinars. You can also call 800-249-2227 to schedule a counseling or coaching session.

Friday, September 13, 2013

#EMBA Info Session - tomorrow (Sept. 14) in #Ft.Worth with other sessions soon after... http://www.twu.edu/som/infosessions-open-houses.asp … #TWUSOM #TWUSOMCONNECTION
#EMBA Info Session - tomorrow (Sept. 14) in #Ft.Worth with other sessions soon after... http://www.twu.edu/som/infosessions-open-houses.asp … #TWUSOM #TWUSOMCONNECTION